The past few blogs have been on the heavy/serious side, I thought I might shake things up with a little fun! Since I have a good number of great women who read this blog and comment, I wanted to ask you:
What’s your opinion on men and facial hair? Specifically, I’m curious about whether, when kissing/making out with a man, do women find him having facial hair annoying, sexy, or not really a factor in the enjoyment level of smooching? Does the quantity of facial hair matter– mustache, goatee, full beard, cultivated 5 o’clock shadow look?
What about seriously bushy mustaches?
And also I’d like to ask the same question when it comes to a man’s face in more… intimate locations?
I know guys often dig growing facial hair because it makes them feel manly. It took a long time for me to be able to grow something that looked okay, and I envied friends that could grow full mustaches or beards in high school. The few times I tried to see what it would look like when I was in high school and college was embarrassing, and it quickly got shaved off. I just assumed that facial hair would never be an option for me.
Then one day in my late 20s I was preparing to go back to work after a week’s vacation and stood at the mirror with my razor and realized I hadn’t shaved in days… and the mustache actually looked kinda decent. So I left it to see what happened. Lo and behold I actually could grow a decent ‘stache! My ex (who was me fiance at the time) liked it, so why not keep it?
While I was never really interested in growing a goatee, and am still not sure I could pull off a full beard, I did always think that having a “soul patch” along with the mustache might look good. My ex thought it was a dumb idea… so when we split up I grew one.
Anyway, the other day it occurred to me that the only person I’ve ever dated while having a mustache was my ex, and as someone who hopes to date again in the future, these sorts of questions have popped into my mind. That shouldn’t surprise some of you since I’ve written a few blogs on kissing 😉 (…She’d Savor Smooching; 3 First Kisses; Last Kiss; Tobacco Kisses)
So ladies… enlighten me!
OK (1) She was WRONG. I love the soul patch, keep it!
My husband has a beard/mustache. I like it as long as it’s kept trimmed and not anything resembling “bushy.” (I do the same for him, LOL)
If a moustache curls over the lips like in that photo of Sam Elliot, NO. Will. Not. Kiss. That.
Your ‘stache? Much more kissable.
Sometimes when he is nuzzling me and being cuddly, the hair pokes at me and is irritating. Yes sometimes when he goes down on me, I feel it and it’s a bit irritating/distracting. I have to remind him to watch that sometimes… “sorry hun, can’t mash your whole face in there, tongue only!” But I have found I far prefer the facial hair to a clean shaven face. His particular face looks better with hair on it, IMHO. Makes him look more manly.
Personally I can’t imagine you without facial hair.
Thanks for the feedback Molly! Exactly the kind of thing I was hoping for 🙂
LOL, I see some pictures — especially ones from eras past — that put Sam Elliot’s ‘stache to shame and wonder — did those men ever get (willingly) kissed?
I think it’s interesting that my mustache has become so much a part of me considering for most of my early adult life I was sure I’d never be able to grow one. People who knew me back then but only have seen me recently often are weirded out because they just couldn’t imagine me WITH facial hair!
BTW, always love hearing “She was WRONG” 😉
I also like the soul patch. Definitely a keeper. It completes the look.
I have to echo the comment about making sure the facial hair stays trimmed and neat. I don’t mind facial hair as long as it is fully realized (stubble is awful, more on that later), clean, and not invading my mouth. The over the lips, big bushy mustache is definitely a no-no. Bush in general just doesn’t need to be happening anywhere. On anyone. Seriously.
My only real pet peeve when it comes to facial hair involves the 2 day, no shave thing. Somewhere in the middle of day 2 and into day 3 of a man not shaving, those little hairs on your face turn into razor blades. Or needles. Really. They become excruciating, anywhere they touch. I have had many a break-out on my chin due to make-out sessions with stubble-face (a.k.a. my husband). Go all the way with the facial hair, or get rid of it all the way. That’s what I say.
It seems like you do a pretty good job of maintaining the shaved portions of your face. Your mustache also looks to be trimmed and properly maintained. I think you’re safe in the “kissable” department.
thanks for weighing in with your thoughts and preferences… and thanks for my positive eval 😉
I love facial hair…especially a full beard but it totally has to be trimmed right up. My ex was very hairless naturally. I was totally surprised when I fell in love with facial hair (even chest hair!). It tickles 🙂
…and the soul patch looks great
thanks, glad you like it! 🙂
Mustaches trimmed neatly are not bad. I prefer neatly trimmed, but full facial hair. Facial hair, appears more manly, to me at least. It should be long enough to not be scratchy (this depends on your hair thickness) and well maintained and conditioned or oiled if longer than a 1/2″ length. The overall facial hair shape should complement your face. It should not accentuate anything you don’t want accentuated. It’s like having a good hair cut. If you have the freedom to check out different styles, why not try some different stuff for a month or two? Grow it, trim it, shape it, see if there is something you really are into. You could even post pics and get more feedback from readers if you so choose.
thanks for the feedback… and I might try that one day, mix things up a bit!
Hmmm, excellent question. Stubble is good some of the time but that can hurt after awhile. A moustache looks good on some men, never on a man who is very fair. A man who has the facial structure and attitude can carry of some serious manscaping. A man who shaves his head looks great with a goatee but again, he has to have the attitude for it. A man that can only grow a wispy thing is better of being clean shaven.
yeah, that’s why I was clean shaven for so long… and of course why I was delighted once I realized that apparently my beard was finally up to the task LOL!
I unfortunately can’t really pull off a bald head (guys who can rock the bald head look like badasses); I’ve got scars and some lumps/bumps on my skull from surgery on my head as a wee babe.
Scars could make you look even more bas sass 🙂
I’ve got a massive scar on my skull. We can rock the badass together.
Your hair is entirely too gorgeous to ever want to see your scar 😉
I suppose my scars might look impressive, I’d just have to concoct a more badass story than I needed surgery to make a soft spot when I was an infant!
I am with Molly on this. I like clean neat face hair. Yes keep the patch.
thank you! so apparently my inclination to grow it was the right one 🙂