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“My Ideal Woman” isn’t a checklist or goal; it’s a celebration of all the things I love about women, expressions of my enthusiasm and delight of the female mind and body. Very few are the women I see in person, in passing, in print or on screen who don’t have something to wonder, cherish, ogle or fantasize about. This blog is dedicated to expressing my appreciation of the fairer sex. I talk more about the goals for my blog here.
A bit more about me…
I’m a writer, a dad, a hopeless romantic, an eternal optimist and a bleeding heart liberal. I look for the best in people and try to win over cynics.
I love movies, with or without company. In fact going alone is a guilty pleasure as I subsume myself in the celluloid reality, a spirit observer watching through the camera lens. I’m thrilled when a film makes me forget myself, and that’s a power I hope to harness myself one day.
I love how having children redefines your universe, how it sets your place in the timestream of humanity. I marvel seeing bits of me manifest in them, alongside their own surprising uniqueness. Watching them experience things for the very first time is truly candy for the soul. Children are our love letters to the future.
I love the smokey taste of bourbon swirling in my mouth, the alchohol bite softened by ginger ale. I love the aromas of vanilla and jasmine, evoking warm memories of scented baths and skin pressed to skin. I love fresh ground pepper and garlic. I love the Byrdsian rolling guitars and blurred vocals of old REM songs. I love the soft kiss of a woman’s lips and the gentle tongueplay that sends electric shocks down my spine. I love searing kisses that make my scalp tingle and my hair stand on end. I love to feel the warm, soft, round curves of a woman’s body beneath my hands. I love the thrill of working with your partner to win a hard-fought game of Spades. I love when someone is moved by something I wrote enough to tell me about it. I love listening to bands like Stone Roses and Mazzy Star while deeply buzzing. I love the warm comfort of a heated house when you come in out of wet, freezing weather. I love it when I put on my jacket for the first time of the season and find a ten dollar bill in the pocket. I love the stylized dialog of the Cohen Brother’s Miller’s Crossing. I always got goofy grins when I saw someone transformed on “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy.” I love toffee and mint candy. I love to ponder what Bill Murray said to Scarlett Johansson at the end of Lost in Translation.
Two books that dramatically changed the way I viewed my world were Generations : The History of America’s Future, 1584 to 2069 by Neil Howe & William Strauss, and A People’s History of the United States: 1492-Present by Howard Zinn. I dig the quiet quirkiness of the film The Accidental Tourist. I’m still in awe by Mary Doria Russell’s writing prowess in her first novel The Sparrow and her subsequent books. I find Making Fiends on Nicktoons delightfully subversive and enjoy watching it with my kids. I tend to side with women when they bitch about men. I used to mosh to Fishbone and Red Hot Chili Peppers in collegetown dives. I dream about one day owning a fabulous row house in the Fan District of Richmond, with hardwood floors, high ceilings, and a round room. Old lovers frequently cross my mind and I hope they’re doing well, wonderful women all of them.
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