About

Hi, my name is Ben. Welcome to my blog! I’d like to give a quick word of thanks to MJ Scott and her husband Elliot for creating the awesome banner that heads my blog, they are two awesome people

If you’d like to get in touch, you can reach me on Twitter (@ben_writing) or email me at ben.writing67 AT gmail DOT com. Or just comment here!

“My Ideal Woman” isn’t a checklist or goal; it’s a celebration of all the things I love about women, expressions of my enthusiasm and delight of the female mind and body. Very few are the women I see in person, in passing, in print or on screen who don’t have something to wonder, cherish, ogle or fantasize about. This blog is dedicated to expressing my appreciation of the fairer sex. I talk more about the goals for my blog here.

A bit more about me…

I’m a writer, a dad, a hopeless romantic, an eternal optimist and a bleeding heart liberal. I look for the best in people and try to win over cynics.

I love movies, with or without company. In fact going alone is a guilty pleasure as I subsume myself in the celluloid reality, a spirit observer watching through the camera lens. I’m thrilled when a film makes me forget myself, and that’s a power I hope to harness myself one day.

I love how having children redefines your universe, how it sets your place in the timestream of humanity. I marvel seeing bits of me manifest in them, alongside their own surprising uniqueness. Watching them experience things for the very first time is truly candy for the soul. Children are our love letters to the future.

I love the smokey taste of bourbon swirling in my mouth, the alchohol bite softened by ginger ale. I love the aromas of vanilla and jasmine, evoking warm memories of scented baths and skin pressed to skin. I love fresh ground pepper and garlic. I love the Byrdsian rolling guitars and blurred vocals of old REM songs. I love the soft kiss of a woman’s lips and the gentle tongueplay that sends electric shocks down my spine. I love searing kisses that make my scalp tingle and my hair stand on end. I love to feel the warm, soft, round curves of a woman’s body beneath my hands. I love the thrill of working with your partner to win a hard-fought game of Spades. I love when someone is moved by something I wrote enough to tell me about it. I love listening to bands like Stone Roses and Mazzy Star while deeply buzzing. I love the warm comfort of a heated house when you come in out of wet, freezing weather. I love it when I put on my jacket for the first time of the season and find a ten dollar bill in the pocket. I love the stylized dialog of the Cohen Brother’s Miller’s Crossing. I always got goofy grins when I saw someone transformed on “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy.” I love toffee and mint candy. I love to ponder what Bill Murray said to Scarlett Johansson at the end of Lost in Translation.

Two books that dramatically changed the way I viewed my world were Generations : The History of America’s Future, 1584 to 2069 by Neil Howe & William Strauss, and A People’s History of the United States: 1492-Present by Howard Zinn. I dig the quiet quirkiness of the film The Accidental Tourist. I’m still in awe by Mary Doria Russell’s writing prowess in her first novel The Sparrow and her subsequent books. I find Making Fiends on Nicktoons delightfully subversive and enjoy watching it with my kids. I tend to side with women when they bitch about men. I used to mosh to Fishbone and Red Hot Chili Peppers in collegetown dives. I dream about one day owning a fabulous row house in the Fan District of Richmond, with hardwood floors, high ceilings, and a round room. Old lovers frequently cross my mind and I hope they’re doing well, wonderful women all of them.

My Motto?
LOVE DEEPLY
BE KIND
DO GOOD

Disclaimer:

These are the thoughts and opinions of myself, unless otherwise specified. Like something you read? Don’t steal it. Give credit where credit is due and bask in the good Karma you’ve earned. If you think I’d be perfect for any writing projects you may have, please contact me directly at ben_writing67@gmail.com with details.

All reviews are unsolicited and done solely at my discretion without freebies or compensation unless otherwise noted in the individual post. I am open to participating in product or service reviews, but reserve the right to give my unabashed opinion in the review at my discretion.

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17 Responses

on June 13, 2011 at 9:50 pm | Reply updated bio… « My Ideal Woman…

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on August 27, 2011 at 12:00 am | Reply Catherine

Love your blog Just started digging in. Let me know if you would like to write a guest post for Simply Solo… I feature them every Tuesday. I’d love to have you – I could really use the male perspective! Email me at simplysoloblog@gmail.com if you would be interested
- on August 27, 2011 at 9:43 pm | Reply Ben
  
  Thanks, Catherine– glad you like it! Just started a couple months ago and wasn’t sure whether the concept would “work” or not (or whether anyone would care to read it) but I’ve enjoyed writing it and it seems to have gotten some traction on hits.
  
  Your blog is great, I really love it and I’d be honored to do a guest post! I’ll drop you an email.
on December 12, 2011 at 6:43 am | Reply Daniel Sandars

I am glad I found this website. I’ve been trying to get my bearings on it all. Women can bring out the best and worst in men, Is it thus needy to relate the love of a woman with the empowerment to get at your best and escape a life more ordinary?
- on December 12, 2011 at 9:36 am | Reply Ben
  
  I don’t think it’s needy at all unless a woman’s love is the only thing that can keep you motivated and happy. But there’s no doubt life’s a bit sweeter with a special someone in your life who loves you, who’s there to make the best days better and the worst days tolerable. I don’t predicate my happiness on finding that woman, but I sure hope I do
  
  Thanks for reading, glad you like it
on December 12, 2011 at 9:58 am | Reply Daniel

“woman’s love” isn’t it more “love of a special woman” doesn’t that uplift come when you find a woman you really really want to put out for -perhaps a really hard catch and a really hard hold on to. I agree you need to be fundamentally emotionally secure and happy as a person to avoid treating women as your emotional pit prop.
on December 31, 2011 at 4:09 am | Reply nubianprincess25

Just read a couple of your blogs…heartwarming and funny. I’m fairly new to blogging but I do like your style. I am following you twitter and look forward to reading more from you.
- on December 31, 2011 at 5:19 pm | Reply Ben
  
  thanks! I’m a new blogger as well, just started this year. I like your blog too, good stuff
on January 13, 2012 at 6:45 pm | Reply lifeinthefarcelane

My Motto?

“BE”

Thanks for the kind words and pingback. Am very glad you found your ring!
- on January 13, 2012 at 7:17 pm | Reply Ben
  
  an EXCELLENT motto my dear!!
  
  …and thanks for the inspiration
on May 12, 2012 at 2:16 pm | Reply Stacy

Hey! Thank you for mentioning Why You Suck In Bed. Always good to connect with fans. Great blog!
- on May 12, 2012 at 5:24 pm | Reply Ben
  
  Thanks Stacy! I’m a big fan of your show, so I’m thrilled that you checked out my blog!!
on May 14, 2012 at 2:53 pm | Reply 2 Blog Awards? Wow! I’m Feelin’ The Love! | Life In The Dash Lane (1962 – ?)

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on May 19, 2012 at 7:48 am | Reply mary i

You have a new commenter (me) thanks to “stormlover” Your bio made me feel good.The world needs more men like you. Looking forward to your posts.oh yeah I did suscribe.Write lots please….
- on May 19, 2012 at 12:15 pm | Reply Ben
  
  thank you!! looking forward to your comments
on June 27, 2012 at 11:47 pm | Reply Aspergers Girls

Howard Zinn’s books are great. You’d like Lies My Teacher Told Me, as well. History. Thanks for the follow.
- on June 28, 2012 at 9:34 am | Reply Ben
  
  I’ll have to check it out! And thanks for the follow-back!!